You’ve finally found a great woman. You can hang out together and have a great time. You enjoy hooking up with her, and you think that you might be willing to make this level of fun a full time girlfriend relationship. It’s a big step, and generally you would take her around to meet the family at this point. However, if you see these red flags, you should just skip that step. Not every woman is one you can bring home to your mother.
Is She Obviously Promiscuous?
You can love your flirty girlfriend to death, but ask yourself if she’s going to fit with your mother’s idea of morality. There’s a good chance that she won’t. If your girlfriend has a tramp stamp she proudly displays, and if she talks about fifty different exes a day there’s a good chance that a meeting with your mother is not going to go well for her, your mother, and especially not for you. Remember, your parents are from a different generation. If bringing her around is just going to cause a two hour lecture about the kind of women you date, spare yourself the pain and skip the reunion.
Is She Argumentative?
Family gets on everyone’s nerves. This is doubly true if the family isn’t even your own. If your girlfriend is prone to arguments or “lively debates”, do not bring her home to meet your parents. You’re setting yourself up for disaster. You might enjoy a challenge in a relationship, but visiting the family is all about smoothing things over. If you just know that she’s going to butt heads with the way your family works and isn’t going to back down, then yeah, you shouldn’t let them mix. You wouldn’t gasoline and a match, would you?
Is She Radically Different from Your Family?
A lot of men end up with a woman who would remind an observer of his mother. It’s perfectly normal. However, a lot of men wind up with a woman so radically different from their mother that putting the two of them together would destroy his life forever. If you know that your girlfriend and your mother would get along like a house on fire, it would be foolish to even try. If your mother is a good, religious, hard working woman and the new lady in your life is a naughty, atheist woman who prefers to laze around and hire a cleaning service rather than clean her own floors you know that there would be a huge problem there. Some things were never meant to be, and your radically different girlfriend was never meant to really be a part of your family.
When your girlfriend trips one or more of these red flags, you know that she’s just not going to be part of the family. You can still enjoy your time together and plan a future, but you should know that family reunions are never going to be great. On the plus side, if you don’t care for reunions either you now have the perfect excuse never to go to another one.