Whether you met online or you had to move to take a job offer, you’ve found yourself in a long distance relationship. It’s great in some ways. You have total freedom, you don’t have to deal with a woman rearranging all your stuff, and you can live alone. However, long distance puts a lot of pressure on a relationship. You can’t see each other every day, so how can you be sure that your relationship is stable and healthy? These tips will keep your long distance relationship as strong as the day it started.
Tell Your Friends
This is especially true of relationships that begin through a dating site. You shouldn’t feel like you have your real life where you’re single and your online life with a girlfriend. Your girlfriend will resent being kept a secret, and you’ll be put into all kinds of awkward situations because people believe that you’re single. More and more people are meeting and connecting online. There’s not the same stigma attached to online dating that there used to be. You knew that you wanted a woman with specific qualities, so you found her. Don’t be ashamed to tell your friends how you met! Plus, being able to talk about her to someone means that you have the ability to vent about her. You shouldn’t keep those feelings bottled up inside.
Use Snail Mail
Nothing beats the comfort of a package in the mail. If you and your online lover are comfortable enough to exchange addresses, start up a regular mailing system between the two of you. This might seem expensive at first, but think about this as something that you can do instead of going on dates. If you’d be shelling out tons of cash a week on meals out with a woman from your city, you can afford to pop a couple post cards and maybe a package in the mail every couple of weeks. Physical contact is the major lacking component in online relationships. Having something from each other that you can actually hold will keep the two of you feeling connected even when you’re apart.
Send Her a Picture Message Diary
This idea sounds stupid at first, but it’s the kind of thing that women love. Send her pictures of your food. Just take a quick snap shot of your lunch when you sit down to eat, and send it to her with a little message to brighten her day. Exchange photos of two or three key points to your day (they don’t always have to be meals) and you’ll find yourself with a better grasp of what her day to day life is like. The two of you can compare activities. This works especially well if you live in different time zones. You’ll be getting a picture of her lunch while you’re getting ready for work, and can send her a snapshot of your beer out with the guys while she’s about to fall asleep.