You’ve been talking to your online sweetheart for months now. You’ve emailed, instant messaged, and flirted. You’re Facebook friends, and you know for sure that she’s not lying about her identity. You’ve probably talked on the phone, and maybe even sexted. None of that makes you feel ready to actually meet in person. When you’re ready to take this online relationship to the real world keep these tips in mind.
Lower Your Expectations
There’s a lot riding on this relationship and meeting. You’ve put off a lot of hopes and dreams to the day that you meet. You have ten thousand things you want to do with her. Every plan that you’ve ever talked about, from staying in and watching movies to having romantic dates on the beach are going through your head. What you need to do is calm yourself down and lower your expectations for this encounter. You want fireworks to go off as soon as you kiss for the first time, but the truth is that you’re still people meeting for the first time. If you put too much pressure on this first meeting going well you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Try to treat this as just another first date with someone you’ve been interested in for awhile.
Take Things Slower Physically
If you want a surefire way to ruin your first meeting, assume you’re going to have sex. Women are weird about things like that. You might have sexted a hundred times, but the first time you meet in person you can’t assume that she’s going to have sex. She won’t want to look easy, and you don’t want to look presumptuous. Make sure that you’re ready in case she does want to. Standard first date condoms should be at hand, but nothing too risky.
If you take things slow, you look like a real gentleman and you give both of you the chance to get to know one another in person. Chemistry can’t be predicted online. Even though you both know that you’re attracted to each other, if you rush into things you won’t get chemistry to build up between you. The very last thing you want for an online relationship turned real life is for the sex to suck. Move too quickly and you won’t be ready, you’ll still be nervous and awkward with each other, and the whole thing will be a disappointment.
Don’t Overstay (Or Let Her)
You agreed to fly out to see her for six days, don’t push for nine. The worst thing that you can do is break your promises when it comes to leaving. You might want to be with her, never leave, etc, but you’re only causing problems when you do that. Your in person relationship is still fragile. Get that meeting under your belt, go home, and keep talking to her. Then you can work up to a longer visit with time. Even people who love each other can be maxed out on togetherness after a few days.