If you’ve been on a few dates with a lady you want to take it to the next level: making it public on your social networks. However, if she doesn’t bring it up it can be hard to know if you should. She might be hiding out from an ex, or she could just think that you’re not there yet. Here are the three signs that you, at least, are ready for it to be all over the Internet.
You’ve at Least Had Sex
If you’ve been on a few dates but haven’t actually done the deed, it’s too soon. There isn’t even much of a relationship to put up there yet. Unless the two of you have discussed waiting for marriage or something of that sort, you’re not even really dating until you’ve had sex. So calm down, there. Focus on getting laid, and then focus on letting the world know that she’s your girlfriend. This way, if the two of you end up not being compatible sexually you can relax, secure in the knowledge that you weren’t publicly humiliated by having to go from “in a relationship” to “single” in front of all your friends, acquaintances, coworkers, and family members.
This seems like a no brainer, but if you haven’t actually talked to her about being exclusive you can’t assume that you are. If she’s still dating or hooking up with other men, you have no business going public with your relationship. You might be okay with it, and you might not be, but you’ll be stepping into a hornet’s nest of drama if you go public about a woman who loves to get a little something on the side.
This works the other way too, of course. If you have a main girl and a couple ladies you visit on the side, you don’t want to go public about being in a relationship. Women who are fine when they know you have a girlfriend you barely acknowledge will get squirrelly and uncomfortable if you’re trotting her out right in front of them. It’s not fair and it doesn’t make sense, but that’s just the way that women work.
She’s Important Enough for Someone to Learn about Immediately
Your profiles generally only lists the most important things about you. They display your name, age, gender, and your occupation… and your girlfriend? Are you that much of a couple that anyone who meets you for the first time should also meet her? That’s a tough question for a lot of couples, so you should take some time to think about it. Is she so essential to your identity that even strangers need to know that she exists?
If you answered yes to all of these questions, then congratulations! It’s time to sit your girlfriend down and tell her that you’ve had enough of being unofficial. Ask her to make it show up on your social networks and then celebrate. Congratulations, your relationship has taken a big step forward.